I was recently sent the message, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” in response to my expression of feelings concerning a lack of communication and consideration. This wasn’t the first time I’ve seen this message so I knew not to engage.
This phrase outlines the speaker’s lack of emotional availability and maturity to handle accountability for their actions. This phrase characterizes the speaker’s dismissal of any palpable involvement in the situation being presented to them. The speaker is simply ghosting responsibility.
The good news is if this phrase is spoken to you when you are trying to resolve a conflict, it is a gift. It shows you that the person who says it does not care to prioritize your feelings over dodging accountability and probably will never prioritize you. It shows you who is and is not emotionally available/intelligent to handle mature situations, which gives you the opportunity to decide what you want for your life.
“I’m sorry you feel that way,” is a key phrase. I find that when we interact with others who are not clear on their intentions, which hinders is from making informed decisions in our lives, we can use key phrases to help us navigate the complexities of human connections.
In addition to this phrase, there are other phrases that help make personal decisions for our lives. Phrases like: “It’s not that serious.” Or “don’t be mad.” There are questions like: “why are you so emotional?” As well. Whenever someone sounds like they dismissing your concerns or feelings, that it’s time to evaluate your place in their lives and if that limiting language is something you want in your life.
What key phrases/questions or limiting language have you come across and how did you navigate it?
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