I have been in many situations where I put myself last over the happiness of others. I wanted people to feel cared for even when no thought was given to my well-being or feelings.
In the last ten years, I have been more observant of the actions of others. I started looking within to assess how their actions made me feel.
I have long since known that I should never try to control others. It was one of my biggest life lessons that completely broke me apart so that I may build myself up. It was a period of time where I thought my actions towards others would lead to favorable outcomes. But when they didn’t, I tried manipulating the situation for favorable results.
Life doesn’t work that way. What that lesson taught me is that when you lead with ego, manipulation is the way you try to get things done. When you’re not self-aware, you allow yourself to be manipulated and controlled by situations and people. When you don’t love yourself enough, you open yourself up to be mistreated and in your hurt state, you mistreat others.
I am in a place now where I am in control of me and only me. If I want to be happy; to be loved; to be at peace, it has to come from within. The path towards the things I want for my life are found in trusting myself to know what is and is not for me.
If you feel your life lacks something important to you, take a look at your life and decide what helps and what hinders you from receiving the important thing. You should never compromise your self love for anyone or anything.
Loving yourself sometimes means walking away from people and situations and can be very painful. In 2024, I shed all the things that held me back from my happiness and peace. I will not accept things that don’t align just to make others happy. My job is not to please other people. My job is to live the best life I can alchemize. My life is mine and I choose what lives and what is left behind.
Will your actions hurt or confuse people? Most definitely! But their emotional response is their responsibility. By choosing yourself, you may be helping others grow in ways that wasn’t possible before.
Choose self-love every day!
Look Within 