I had a moment last week when I felt invisible. It took me back to when I was younger, and I wondered why I didn’t have many friends. I always thought something was wrong with me. I occasionally still go through the motions of feeling sorry for myself, asking myself what it is about me that turns people away.
I regretted not having more friends and not being invited to social events. I regretted so much of my life interactions with people that I began to hate the person I was becoming.
Regret leads us down a negative path. Wishing things have gone a different way can adversely rob the present of its light. I used to look back and wish I was more popular in high school, but in doing that, I was discrediting all the great things I was.
I have learned, when things don’t go the way you expect, it’s because it’s not part of the grand plan. Regret is the result of us thinking that we can perfect a past situation or handle it in a better way. Life is not going back and fixing past perceived mistakes. It’s about learning from the past and becoming the best you that you can.
You can become the best you by caring for yourself. Allowing others to dictate your image gives them ownership and therefore permits things like regret to live and fester within you, disrupting your peace.
I still feel invisible at times, but you know what? I think it, and then it passes. I no longer care if someone includes me or a situation doesn’t quite go as planned. My life is where it is because of who I am and how I got myself here.
Regret nothing in life because we are all exactly where we need to be. Take control of your image and dictate your path according to where you want to be.