I recently had a conversation with my ex-husband because of an email he sent me. It had me questioning how he was feeling, and in turn, triggered feelings within me. In our conversation, I asked him if he still had feeling for me. He was dating someone he’d met just months after our divorce but… Continue reading Unlovable?
Are your needs being met?
I read a quote by Ashleigh Warner that states, "Beneath every behavior, there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need, rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom." So many times we address the symptoms of an issue… Continue reading Are your needs being met?
“Selfish” is selfless
I learned recently that some people believe that you are selfish if you are not giving into everything they request of you. I was called selfish for putting up boundaries. I was called selfish for taking care of myself when there were no other options. I grew up thinking that when you have any kind… Continue reading “Selfish” is selfless
Grief: Finding gratitude in loss
I am reading this book titled Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends by Bruce Fisher, EDD, and Robert Alberti, Ph.D. as part of my divorce group therapy. The chapter we just finished was about grief. It talks about how when we lose someone we love via death, there is a ritual to help release the pain but with… Continue reading Grief: Finding gratitude in loss
Is Your Life Overdue?
I just finished reading The Overdue Life of Amy Byler by Kelly Harms. I don't know if I have ever connected to a story as much as I have to this one. In the story, Amy's husband left her and their two kids for three years and returned to make amends, whereas my husband mostly… Continue reading Is Your Life Overdue?
There is a song called 'Nobody Greater' by VaShawn Mitchell that sparked a realization within me. The lyrics go: I climbed up to the highest mountain, looked all around, couldn't find nobody.Went down into the deepest valley, looked all around down there, couldn't find nobody. I've heard this song many many times over but for… Continue reading Nobody Greater