I have heard many times from people I no longer interact with that I hate them, when all I am doing is showing love.
It’s a conundrum. It’s scenarios that can you make you feel like you are choosing wrong when all you are doing is choosing yourself.
Love is an action word that is misunderstood by many. It is assumed that you can only show love by giving to others, showing up for others, or doing for others, but that is not the case.
When someone decides to love themselves, on the outside, it can look like that person is disregarding others. But how can one give love to others without first loving themselves? How can one pour from an empty glass? Simple answer: they can’t.
I have been made to feel like a horrible human being, called petty, hateful, and spiteful, just because I choose to no longer accept disrespect from people. My heart broke every time I was misunderstood and I was left feeling bad for putting myself first.
I analyzed myself and this is what I found: love can sometimes feel like hate when the ego is left unfulfilled. It’s not that I am choosing wrong, it’s that I’m not giving into the perspective of the one who says I hate them.
I want to be surrounded by love, respect, and acceptance (to name a few). The world is filled with so many different people that what I want won’t always be the same for the people I interact with.
I also want to honor everyone’s choice of identity. In my eyes, that means allowing people to be themselves without judgement.
I love that we are all different but the part that is misunderstood is: just because I honor who you are, it doesn’t mean I have to allow you in my life. What we want for our lives can be different and it is an act of love to let each other go and find what it is that we are looking for.
Letting go is necessary to have a good life. If we continue to hold onto what does not align, we will never find what it is that will align.
If your eyes are open and reality doesn’t feel good, adjust- job, house, relationship, friendship, etc. – change is hard but attaching to the wrong things is life diminishing.
I have stayed in situations well past the expiration dates and moving on was difficult but I am glad for the change. Cutting people from your life can make you feel like the villain but satisfying the egos of others is not what life is about. Life is about experiences and there is no wrong choices that you make for your own life.
I hope some of this speaks to you and you choose to live life for yourself 💚
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