Finding the calm in the chaos
I recently had a conversation with my ex-husband because of his email. It had me questioning how he was feeling and, in turn, triggered feelings within me. In our discussion, I asked him if he still had feeling for me. He was dating someone he'd met just months after our divorce, but some of what… Continue reading Unlovable?
I read Ashleigh Warner's quote, "Beneath every behavior, there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need, rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom." So many times, we address the symptoms of an issue, not the root cause.… Continue reading Are your needs being met?
I learned recently that some people believe you are selfish if you are not giving in everything they request. I was called selfish for putting up boundaries. I was called selfish for caring for myself when there were no other options. I grew up thinking that when you have any kind of relationship, you take… Continue reading “Selfish” is selfless
I enjoyed reading the book The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein. Another great quote was,"“That which you manifest is before you." I had to pause and repeat that phrase a few times to let it seep into my whole being. One may look out a window and see rain and think they… Continue reading Manifest the life you want
I began the year with some emotional reading, and one of the books was titled The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein. One of the quotes that stuck out to me was, “To remember is to disengage from the present.” It was such a powerful statement, and I felt its truth. When I return… Continue reading Live in the Moment.
I am reading Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends by Bruce Fisher, EDD, and Robert Alberti, Ph.D., as part of my divorce group therapy. The chapter we just finished was about grief. It talks about how when we lose someone we love via death, there is a ritual to help release the pain, but with divorce, people… Continue reading Grief: Finding gratitude in loss
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